Dealing with parenting decisions can be hard enough as a happily married couple, but when you're faced with these decisions following a divorce, it can be downright difficult. You want to be sure that your kids are getting what they need, but you also need to have a balanced approach so that they aren't caught in the middle of further arguments. Here are some tips to help you create an effective parenting plan for kids of all ages.
- Are you in an abusive relationship? Are you planning on leaving your partner for your safety or the safety of your kids? While leaving is likely in your best interests, it's also possible that the period immediately after you leave could be the most dangerous period for you and your children. Often, abusive partners become angered by the announcement of the separation. Your partner may seek you out and could have intense emotions.
- As hard as it can be to admit when a marriage is over, it's important to be clear on what your next steps need to be. Getting your affairs in order prior to a divorce will not only help you expedite the filing process, it will minimize the appearance of impropriety on your part, and may save you a protracted legal battle. Further, it will mean less work for your lawyer as they prepare to represent you.
- If you have kids and have decided to get a divorce, you should not move out of your home until a court determines residence and establishes a temporary custody plan for your children. Moving Out Establishes That You Don't Want To Live In Your Home To start with, moving out will make it look like you don't want to live in your house and it can weaken your argument to be allowed to stay in your house and for your spouse to move out.
- Being in the wrong place at the wrong time or being involved with the wrong people can give you a lot of guilty traits, even if you're completely innocent. If law enforcement is looking for suspects, anyone within eyeshot can be considered a potential culprit. If you're confused and looking for reasons to escape the situation, calm down and think about what you were doing; how it separates you from any criminal acts; and how mobile devices, receipts, cameras and other pieces of technology could help you out of a bad situation.